Its all in the mind

When I was in 10th standard, I had a black color pant, which was my favorite. I used to wear it many times. I met with 3 accidents while I was wearing that. Then I decided in my mind that Black is not good for me. How stupid isn't it. I know many of the people have made up similar decision at one or the other time. But we hardly realize that its all in our mind. How can some thing be good for some body and bad for others. Color Black itself is neither good nor bad. Its just a color nothing more nothing less. Then what made me to feel that it is bad. It is those accidents which made me to feel that. My association to black color since those accidents made me to feel that.

Lets take another example for a moment. In our past we get annoyed with people. We keep saying "that guy irritates me a lot", "My BP raises the moment I see him" etc. Have you any time thought what made you to think like that. The man whom we are angry one is not good or bad. Its the story which we build up in our mind about him. In once of my friends circle there is a girl about which my close friend always had a bad opinion. But I never felt so. Now what should I conclude, She is Good or Bad? She is neither. She is what she is.

My mentor used to tell me, when you are walking on the road, you will find a Rs100 not fallen down. You will pick it up and see if it is really a Rs100 note. If yes then you will put it in your pocket else if it is not then you will throw it and move on. whole thing would take-up maximum 15-20 sec. In the same way if some body body criticizes you then take it, analyze it, if its worth to implement then take it else through it in the air and move on. All this should take you 15-20 sec. He said its all in the mind.

I have been working on his suggestion more than an year now. Its really worth it.